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Friends

Friends? They're the biggest treasure anyone could ever have. Sure one's family is mighty important but your family are people whom you have been destined to love and tolerate regardless of their short comings. Your family are the most unlikely people to walk out of your life. Your family will love you unconditionally and go to any length to protect and defend you but with friends, you can never really know for sure and that's what makes friendships so thrilling. All you know for sure is that you have chosen that person to be a part of your miserable life and you are willing to condone a fair amount of imperfections as long as the common ties that bind you continue to transcend those imperfections. Now I personally don't like to over-associate the word "trust" with friendship. For me  a person you trust is someone in whose hands you can place your life. That's it for me. anything less than that, I see as having 'confidence' and having confidence in someone is not minor by any stretch. Sure you can confide in some friends with some sensitive information and you might even try to convince yourself that you can trust them with your life but deep down you know the truth; only you can determine who you can trust with your life and there are very few of such people. It doesn't have to be your friend, doesn't even have to be a member of your family. You could meet a complete stranger and spot just one trait in that person that convinces you that you can put your life in their hands.
So what is it about them that makes friends so special? I mean beyond the fact that they can tell exactly what's on your mind at times when no one else can, the fact that they can give you the sort of advice you know you need to hear but are just afraid to give to yourself or the inexplicable fact that you share so much in common regardless of your race, age, ethnicity, political or religious beliefs. The most special thing about friends is the fact that as they can be your biggest treasure, they could just as easily become your biggest undoing. Your friends (and I mean the real ones) have the power to destroy you. For me, the best, most important friend you can have, is the realization that at the end of the day, every man has to carry his own cross all by himself. No friends, no family, no lovers, no trusted strangers, just YOU and the moment you realize that, you will begin to appreciate your friends for what they truly are - treasures,  because you know that you could lose them at any time and at any time, even without your knowledge, they could turn out to be the source of your downfall like all other treasures.

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